Friday, March 28

Fences with GATES!

If love is the most powerful force in the universe, why is it so very easy to hold it back from one's self? Why is it the one thing we want to insist we live without? Self Love could be the easiest thing in the world, and yet we make it the hardest.

It all depends on YOU. It’s like we have this element to us that refuses to allow the good stuff, the feel good parts, the wonderful… and we fight it.

I’m on the other side now, I figured out that I will be happiest if I just bloody-well love myself and like who I am. If I do that, I’m happy, I get happier, I enjoy life, and “things” in life sail along so much smoother. On this side of the fence, I’m left being rather confused why so many people choose to stay on the other side of the fence. I’m even standing AT the fence talking to people sitting on the ground the other side, saying “There’s a gate right there!!” and they refuse to believe it’s as easy as standing up and walking through it. That the gate is how one arrives on the side of the fence where I am.

What’s stopping them? I’m not sure. I think a decision is stopping them. And the decision can’t be made because they have so many reasons not to make the decision. Maybe at some point they will reach a saturation level, where they can’t stand it any more, and the discomfort will be more than the importance of the excuses and fear of walking through the gate.

I keep thinking of other posts I’ve written as I write this one, and I feel like saying some of those things again: “If you want something different, you have to do something different.” And “Stand up and Deal.”

If you are on the other side of the fence, and sitting on the ground with your reasons to keep sitting there, and you DO keep sitting there, you clearly don’t want to stand up and do something different, even if you say that’s what you want. Until you actually stand up and do something different, nothing changes. You see that, I see that, and I don’t care who YOU are, the choice to sit or stand is a CHOICE.

There’s a gate in that fence, and even if you can’t see it from where you’re sitting, you won’t find it if you stay where you are.

I wish you success, and you have my love.


  1. I feel like I've stood up and cracked the gate but it's not as easy as making a decision in my opinion. But maybe you make the decision and fake it til you make it. I do know this...I'm in the process.

    Love your writing and thanks for sharing!

    1. Hi Lovely Tami <3
      I don't believe there is necessarily ONE decision, unless you want to see the standing up and opening the gate as the decision. One has to start with "I'm going to start loving myself, and this means: ________" There are numerous things you can fill in the blank with. Because we have numerous reasons to not love ourselves.
      But I suppose if there IS ONE decision, it might be that you are finally going to do something about it.